No Longer Waiting

Regarding Dualism July 31, 2009

I mentioned dualism in my last post.  I’ve been reading a lot about dualism lately.  I was first introduced to the concept by reading Michael’s blog over at The Christian Monist.  He’s got quite a story to tell, and it’s really good stuff.  He writes a lot about dualism, and how much it pervades our culture and colors many of our beliefs.  Dualism has many different meanings, depending on the context in which it is being discussed.  But for here and now, dualism, as it relates to the modern American evangelical Christian, is a way of viewing the world in very black and very white terms; having a very defined, hard-lined set of beliefs, i.e., what is “good” and what is “bad.”  Dualism, in this context, usually views the spiritual world as being superior to the material (or “seen” world).  An evangelical, for example, might call this “godly” versus “worldly.”  Traditionally, for an evangelical, there were secular (or worldly) jobs, such as a doctor, a banker, an accountant, etc., or godly jobs (usually church- or ministry-related).  We speak of “God’s ways” and “man’s ways,” as if they are always utterly and diametrically opposed.

This line of thinking may lead us to erroneous conclusions that we do not need to seek the care of physicians and opt instead for “God’s healing,” or believe that schooling “God’s way” is always the better option for our children as opposed to secular public school, or believe that we can “tithe our way out of debt,” instead of correcting the destructive financial behaviors that have gotten us into our mess in the first place.  Not only is this line of thinking foolish, it is often downright dangerous, because I often see Christians acting in direct opposition to what the experts, in any given field, would tell us to do.  I think it isolates us, and we live in our little Christian bubbles for fear of being “contaminated” by the world and its insidious practices.  The very wonderful world and people that God created and loves.

Historians would also say that dualism is the frame of mind with which the entire modern era has been shaped.  But I wonder if this line of thinking has always been present since the Fall of humankind.  According to biblical tradition, we did choose the fruit from the tree of knowledge of good and evil, after all.  As we have moved out of the modern era and into the post-modern era, however, this type of thinking seems to be becoming more and more problematic.  Gray is now the new black and white.  Those once hard-drawn lines are now blurred.  Don’t believe me?  Think with me for a moment about your favorite currently-airing TV show…Got it?  Okay, think about the characters on said show.  Got ‘em?  Now divide those characters into two groups for me, Group A being the “good guys” and Group B being the “bad guys.”

Not so simple, is it?

I was commenting to my husband a while back how most, if not all, popular television shows right now have characters whose morality is harder and harder to define.  From the unconventional, but brilliant Dr. Greg House, to Sayid from “Lost,” these characters all have one major thing in common:  Their complexity.  Are they good or are they bad?  Loyal and brave Sayid has a background as a professional interrogator (i.e., he tortures people to get information from them); and Vicodin-popping Dr. House, while a brilliant medical doctor, usually relies on controversial and sometimes unscrupulous methods in order to find the cure for a patient, which he usually does.  Whatever happened to the shows where the bad guy was clearly bad, and the good guy clearly, well, good?  Some Christians see this as yet another example of the moral decay of our society.  I, however, have to disagree.  I believe this is because we’re no longer that gullible or naive.  We are aware and have become more acquainted with and more honest about our own frailty, as well as our own beauty, as human beings.

This has resonated with me on a lot of levels.  It seems I’ve struggled with the effects of dualism in my own life.  I have often viewed this world through black and white lenses, and have, therefore, missed out on developing wonderful relationships with people that *gasp* think differently than I do!  I’ve denied myself experiences for fear that it would make God angry with me.  I done things, stupid things, that have flown in the face of wisdom and science, simply because I thought it was “God’s” way of doing things.

What I am realizing is that this entire world belongs to God.  And there is no where on this Earth that God is not.  Psalm 24:1 says “The earth and everything on it belong to the Lord.  The world and its people belong to him” (CEV).  Psalm 139:7-8 says “Where can I go to get away from your Spirit?  Where can I run to get away from you?  If I go up to heaven, you are there.  If I make my bed in HELL, you are there” (GW).  God is not some prudish grandma with her panties in a wad, who stands far off when we are hurting, angry, in pain, falling down, making mistakes, etc.  Going through seasons of suffering and pain has taught me the invaluable lesson that not only is God NOT far off during those times, but that God is in the very thick, the very heart of darkness, suffering, and pain.  God is, as they say, good.

As Christians, we should know that even within the worst of us, there lies the possibility of hope, forgiveness and redemption.  That we are, as Anne Lamott says, “diamond hearts, wrapped in meatballs.”  That in every situation there lies the possibility of goodness, faithfulness, and love.  And instead of isolating ourselves from the pain of this world, we should try to be more like God, roll up our sleeves, get involved, and get our hands dirty.

That is, afterall, what Jesus did.

 

Things Life and God are Currently Teaching Me July 23, 2009

  1. God is really, really big.
  2. Housework is way overrated.
  3. Sleeping in is way underrated.
  4. God is not as uptight as I once thought.
  5. We as human beings have an astounding knack for over complicating just about everything. I find this interesting especially when so many of Jesus’ teachings revolved around simplicity.
  6. Simplicity vs. Duplicity is a running theme in my life. More on that later.
  7. Monism vs. Dualism is also a theme. More on that later, as well.
  8. I am blessed. And I am thankful.
  9. If you want to have a great marriage, spend time with your spouse. If you want to have a great relationship with your kids, spend time with your kids. If you want to have healthy finances, spend time working on them. In other words, if you want something to be healthy, focus and work on THAT thing. Don’t work on one thing, expecting it to solve problems or cause blessings to pop up in some other random area of your life. These are the very principals of sowing and reaping. You can’t get cucumbers from planting tomato seeds. Sometimes, but not always, we may have unexpected pleasant consequences arise from seemingly unrelated actions or events. But we should never count on these. This may seem elementary and it probably is, but I see far too much of the other going on, and I think it’s a duplicitous and dangerous way of shirking our responsibilities.
  10. Having a sense of humor is a necessity in life.
  11. Getting older, for me, really has meant getting fatter. And gravity isn’t really helping matters either. But I’m finding that I like the older, fatter, saggier, sassier me than the younger, thinner, tighter, slightly bitchier version. Plus, I like me with brownies and cheesecake waaaaay better than I do without.
  12. I still have a voice, it’s just currently being muffled by the sounds of Sesame Street.
 

Welcome to “No Longer Waiting”! July 15, 2009

Filed under: Books,Kids,Marriage,Movies,Theological Discussions,Writing — Angela @ 8:32 pm
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You can get so confused
that you’ll start in to race
down long wiggled roads at a break-necking pace
and grind on for miles across weirdish wild space,
headed, I fear, toward a most useless place.
The Waiting Place…

…for people just waiting.
Waiting for a train to go
or a bus to come, or a plane to go
or the mail to come, or the rain to go
or the phone to ring, or the snow to snow
or waiting around for a Yes or a No
or waiting for their hair to grow.
Everyone is just waiting.

Waiting for the fish to bite
or waiting for wind to fly a kite
or waiting around for Friday night
or waiting, perhaps, for their Uncle Jake
or a pot to boil, or a Better Break
or a sting of pearls, or a pair of pants
or a wig with curls, or Another Chance.
Everyone is just waiting.

NO!
That’s not for you!

Somehow you’ll escape
all that waiting and staying.
You’ll find the bright places
where Boom Bands are playing.

With banner flip-flapping,
once more you’ll ride high!
Ready for anything under the sky.
Ready because you’re that kind of a guy!

–Dr. Seuss, Oh the Places You’ll Go!

Er, girl.  I read that little jem to my kids a while back, and at the time, it really bothered me.  At the time, it felt a bit like a cold, hard, slap in the face, considering that the title of my then blog was Sitting In the Waiting Room.  I’ve lived most of my life, as C.S. Lewis says, “in the shadowlands,” thinking that the sun is always shining somewhere else.  Around a bend in the road.  Over the brow of a hill.  Someplace that I currently am not.  Sitting uncomfortably in the cold, but too afraid to find the warmest spot, for fear of making a wrong move.  I am realizing that the sun shines on me, too.  I feel it’s warmth.  Right here.  Right now.  Ever since that fateful bedtime reading of a beloved children’s classic, I’ve been asking myself…What the hell am I waiting for exactly?  Honestly, I don’t quite know anymore.

What I do know is this:  I love my life.  I am absolutely in love with my gentleman of a husband and am convinced I snagged one of the  last great men on earth (Sorry, ladies!).  My 4 kids are beautiful, healthy, and awesome, and I can’t believe how lucky I am to be able to hang out with them all day, and do things like go to the park, go to the pool, and eat ice cream.  Seriously?  This is my job? I live twenty minutes from my entire immediate family and get to see them quite often.  Furthermore, I am surrounded by the best group of beautiful, kind, gracious women you would ever meet.  There are, of course, a few friends that are too far away for my liking and that I would teleport here in a heartbeat if I could (you know who you are!).  But other than that, I really can’t complain too much.

I am learning to love the simplicity of life.  I am also learning that God is right here, in it with me.  During the diaper changes.  During the toilet scrubbing.  During the pb & j assembling.  I am not waiting for God to show up.  For God to move.  For God to speak.  I carry God with me, always in my heart.  God is already here, and has been all along.  “There’s no place like home.” [click, click, click]…

Also, on a logistical note, starting a fresh new blog has given me the excuse to emerge out of the Dark Ages, i.e. Blogger, and reemerge with one of these WordPress beauties.  I’ve been covetous of you WordPressers for long enough.  So, I came.  I saw.  I conquered.  Covetous no more!

So, I’m not quite sure what direction this new blog is going to take.  If it’s any reflection of myself, which, I am sure that it will be considering that’s EXACTLY what writers usually do, it will probably move in a thousand different directions, often get sidetracked, lose focus, sit down to eat, take a nap, wake up again and wonder what the heck just happened.  On a daily basis.  Oh well, anything’s better than sitting still, I guess.  :)

 

 
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